something about "LOVE"

Nathan wrote:yeah, I quite agree with what you said. Love should be bilateral, or it'll be hard to last. Someone may easily feel tired if he/she's the only one who's trying to maintain their love.
Yeah i've had this experience but now i asked this question because a girl loves me so much but i don't love her that much. Though i was moved by her at one night a few days ago, i'm still thinking if i should accept her.

Cherry wrote:
i think if you were moved , kind of love her and get the potential or possibility to develop the love, you're supposed to accept her. but you have to make a decision by your real feeling.

Cherry wrote:

Nathan wrote:yeah, I quite agree with what you said. Love should be bilateral, or it'll be hard to last. Someone may easily feel tired if he/she's the only one who's trying to maintain their love.
Yeah i've had this experience but now i asked this question because a girl loves me so much but i don't love her that much. Though i was moved by her at one night a few days ago, i'm still thinking if i should accept her.

i think if you were moved , kind of love her and get the potential or possibility to develop the love, you're supposed to accept her. but you have to make a decision by your real feeling.

Alex wrote:

Cherry wrote:
i think if you were moved , kind of love her and get the potential or possibility to develop the love, you're supposed to accept her. but you have to make a decision by your real feeling.

This is Chinese for going on dates with someone?

Nathan wrote:

Alex wrote:

Cherry wrote:
i think if you were moved , kind of love her and get the potential or possibility to develop the love, you're supposed to accept her. but you have to make a decision by your real feeling.

This is Chinese for going on dates with someone?

ha i've no idea

Alex wrote:

Nathan wrote:

Alex wrote:

Cherry wrote:
i think if you were moved , kind of love her and get the potential or possibility to develop the love, you're supposed to accept her. but you have to make a decision by your real feeling.

This is Chinese for going on dates with someone?

ha i've no idea

Dating is a form of courtship, and may include any social activity undertaken by, typically, two persons with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dating

This is why western people 'date' more people than a typical Chinese person... we don't 'love' everyone we date, we date to decide if we 'love'.... and if we don't think love will develop, we end it and move on. I also think 'love' is a different concept between my culture and typical Chinese culture.

So I guess I've had more girlfriends in my life than you Mr. Nathan, but you've probably 'loved' more women than me... but only because of different cultures

Nathan wrote:
so now i date girls just like western people? ha. I've got no idea who will be my girlfriend or which one i do love the most. I was just dating them and waiting for one of them. wow sounds like i was a bad guy

Nathan wrote:
Chinese culture makes people being careful in love and i think they're not brave enough sometimes.

Nathan wrote:
Western people know that they're finding someone and they change their girlfriends or boyfriends more easily and decidedly than Chinese people, in order to find the one they think they can share life with. Is it right?

Alex wrote:I think a big cultural difference is that dating in China is a really big commitment. You really have to fight hard, in some cases 'proof your love' (whatever that means) to even get a girl to go on a date with you... There really is too much focus on what others think.

guganlingzhi wrote:

Alex wrote:I think a big cultural difference is that dating in China is a really big commitment. You really have to fight hard, in some cases 'proof your love' (whatever that means) to even get a girl to go on a date with you... There really is too much focus on what others think.

i agree with you. Most of the relationships should go from like to love. if people start a relationship according to the goal of getting married, that may place too much pressure on the relationship.
Western care the personality when they choose lifelong partner while Chinese care the social status and wealth.
if the concepts don't change, we'll forever choose our partners under these horrible values!

mani wrote:date her and figure it out~ha

Alex wrote:

Nathan wrote:
so now i date girls just like western people? ha. I've got no idea who will be my girlfriend or which one i do love the most. I was just dating them and waiting for one of them. wow sounds like i was a bad guy

Not at all! You are normal! Dating is what most people do! A romantic relationship is different to a normal friendship in many ways. Dating is essential to really know how compatible you would be with someone.

Nathan wrote:
Chinese culture makes people being careful in love and i think they're not brave enough sometimes.

Maybe careful isnt the right word... but I know what you mean. Conservative and formalised in majority, perhaps.

Nathan wrote:
Western people know that they're finding someone and they change their girlfriends or boyfriends more easily and decidedly than Chinese people, in order to find the one they think they can share life with. Is it right?

Well you dont always date someone thinking that they are someone to spend a life with. Most relationships are not formed on love, they are formed on attraction, that will either develop into love or end later on.

I have heard of some Chinese boys the first time they meet a girl talk about the fact they have a house, money, a car etc... that sounds crazy to talk about the first time meeting a girl ha

Money can't buy a personality

Nathan wrote:how to raise her hope in love again after she despairs of me?

Alex wrote:

Nathan wrote:how to raise her hope in love again after she despairs of me?

I will need more information before I offer my advice

Nathan wrote:let's talk about love here..




first i wanna ask, will you be with someone who loves you so much but u don't love him/her that much?

Tim wrote: Love is blind.. Neal can explain what love is exactly..

(*^__^*) Yandy wrote:

Tim wrote: Love is blind.. Neal can explain what love is exactly..